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We all wonder at some point what our true destiny in life is. We ask questions like; what is my true nature? What occupation/business will work for me effortlessly?

Well, I think we can find our answers by looking first at Mother Nature for a perfect example of how there is peace and harmony and flow with the way she works.

There is no forcing in nature. Notice how naturally and easily the change of seasons occur. Yes, some forces are violent but, there seem to be a cleansing after they occur. This phenomenon is for another article.

The question remain, why do we force upon ourselves jobs, businesses and friends that are contrary our nature. If it goes against your nature it will prove a struggle and will not be successful for you. One of my friends says it aptly, “ It is like giving birth to a set of dishes.’ Impossible!

Have you heard someone say I would do this if I did not get paid or I love doing this. Do you feel this way about your occupation?

You know what your strengths and joys are. You know what you get involved in and time seem to stand still. Look at what makes you happy and what you are doing when you feel peace and joy. Out of these things you will find your true love, your destiny and a path to follow.

What are some of the signs that you are not on your path?

• Do you hate your work?
• Are you constantly stressed at work?
• Do you have trouble sleeping?
• Do you feel overloaded and taxed to the limit?

We are all stressed at times. However, If you answer yes to several of these questions consistently, you are certainly not doing what you are destined to do. You are not on your true path.

You have heard the expression do what you love, follow your passion and money will follow. This is true really because, when you follow your passion you work tirelessly toward the end result, achieving your goals. You will do whatever is necessary to stay true to yourself. It will not be a struggle. Doors will open that were shut and people will show up to assist you out of nowhere. It can be quite magical.

Working your personal path is like a river flowing downstream. It flows easily and effortlessly. It is a beautiful thing.

If you have not found your path ask yourself what am I destined to do and quietly wait for the answer and it will come. When it does you will know it. It could come as a slap in the face or a gently tap. It will show up if you are sincere. When it does, listen.

This quotation by Hardy D Jackson says it all:

“Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.”?

Is it foolish to look toward others for your true path. Your path is as unique as your fingerprints. Your path may be similar to others but, you must put your personal stamp on your path.

Do not come to the end of your days on this planet not doing what you love and what you are destined to do, become and have.

Honor yourself!

Nell Elliott and I started an organization called Sisters Safe Talk. We would meet weekly and chat about what was happening in our lives. We felt strongly that other women could use this environment to express themselves without fear of condemnation or reprisal.

As a result, Sisters Safe Talk began. After several false starts we had our first successful meeting. We are so pleased to have this format available to all women. For more information click here to visit our website

It is a wonderful sunny holiday weekend and you have

no plans.  You have not been included in any activities.     You are in despair and wonder “what is wrong with me?’

First of all understand totally there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.  If you have feelings of loneliness there are steps you can take to rectify the problem.  Some of the steps yield immediate results and others are long-term with lasting results.

Lets discuss the steps you can take immediately to change being alone.

 

1. Join groups and organizations that interest you.  Attend events regularly.
2. Volunteer. Do something good for someone in need.  Give your time, it is the most precious thing you have to give, ever.
3. Get a job.
4. Take a class, this one is good.
5. Smile.  When you smile at another person you are saying hello, I accept you.  You are letting the other person know that you are approachable.
6. Introduce yourself.  Give your name and where you are from.
7. We love to talk about ourselves. Focus on the other person.  Ask questions about the other person without getting intimate. Be interested in their life and listen.
8. When you talk about yourself take a risk and do not be superficial.  Reveal the real you without being intimate.
9. Listen and learn.  We can learn something interesting from everyone we meet.

Get started now with things you can do now.

Consider these steps for long-term results as you are developing your short term relationship goals.  If you do not have friends or feel lonely it is time to ask the big question.  Why do I feel lonely? Why do I not have friends?

Food for thought and action to take.

1. Ask yourself what are my talents and my strengths  .  You really do have them. Do not lie to yourself.  Write them down and focus on them.  These will make you feel good about yourself.  An example would be; if you are an excellent swimmer.  Join a swim club or group.  They are available for the young and the not so young.  You get the idea.

 

2. If you are shy, that can appear to others like you are unapproachable.  Join a group or organization that can help you over come this or get books, CD’s on the subject and embark on a campaign to improve this area of your life.  You can also talk with someone you trust and can confide in.

 

3. If you are shy, that can appear to others like you are unapproachable.  Join a group or organization that can help you over come this or get books, CD’s on the subject and embark on a campaign to improve this area of your life.

 

4. Be selective in the long term.  Focus on having a few good friends that you love and love you.  Your goal is involve yourself with people you enjoy being around and offer significant pleasure to you and you them.

 

5. Take small steps to overcome your weak areas.  We all need help.  We are all a work in progress.  No one has arrived, really.  We are continually learning.  Be among those who deliberately learn to be better and not a person who learn by default.

 

6. We are creatures of habit.  We repeat  mistakes, we repeat good habits as well.  After you realize a weak area, make corrections in small increments.  Step out and take a risk.   Continue the process of growing and learning.  Make these corrections habits for a lifetime.    As you mature in your new behavior you will learn the huge difference between loneliness and solitude.  You will cherish your alone time. Honestly you will.

Finally be positive.  Do not dwell on negative.  Realize that you are taking steps to feel better, correct your situation and change your view of what is occurring in your life.   Take these steps immediately to alleviate your challenges of feeling and being alone.  My promise to you is that if you follow these steps,  some are simple and easy and some just simple and not so easy.

When the next bright sunny holiday comes around you will have the invitations  you crave or you will do the inviting yourself.  How wonderful is that.

Honor Yourself!

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Can you hear me now?  That’s a question that many laugh and joke about because of the well known commercials on television. It’s about getting a good enough signal to talk on a cell phone and how one cell phone offers better service than another.

Why not offer the service of listening to our fellow man? Yet, so often, we are too caught up in the things we want to say and we don’t actually hear the things others are saying to us.

This is the sad truth.

The older I get the smarter my mom was. My mom said “God gave you two ears and one mouth.”
Listen more than you talk.   Actually, there is more to it than that.

What do we have to say for ourselves? We could call it self absorption. Like most things in life if we are not taught the correct way to do a thing we will do it by default which is usually totally incorrect.

Developing good listening skills and learning to listen can improve friendships, gather more friends, and has been called one of the secrets to a happy life.

When we listen with a purpose a new life opens up to us. Learn this skill well and it will reward you greatly.

Some listening tips if person to person

1. Lean forward in your chair
2. Look the person in the face
3. Concentrate on what is being said
4. Look for body language/movements-beyond the words
5. Listen for content and emotions
6. Repeat what the person says
7. Do not allow interruptions and do not interrupt.
8. State your opinions

Tips for telephone listening.

1. Do not multi task.
2. Do take notes if possible
3. Do not interrupt
4. Concentrate on what is being said.
5. Repeat back what was stated to insure you got it correct.
6. State your opinions only after they have finished.

Listening doesn’t mean you sit still, look in the direction of the person, and never speak a word. It does mean you hear what they are saying. Hearing takes more than a pair of healthy ears. It means you tune in. Pretend like you have radio tuners built into your head, you have to train yourself to tune in to that’s person’s frequency. Based on what they are saying, you should have a response.

“I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I’m going to learn, I must do it by listening.” Larry King.

When you don’t have anything else to give, listen. Listening is like giving someone a surprise wrapped up in a pretty box. As they begin to talk to you and they see you are hearing what they have to say, they open the box a little more until they are totally exposed before your eyes.

In the act of listening, you have given something precious to a person who will cherish the time you spent with them.

Honor Yourself!

You Can Listen Too!

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Picture this scenario…

Your leader in your deal is a friend, you have a great relationship and you work closely together building your business. Your business is growing, you are having fun and all is well…or is it?

Your friend/leader announced regretfully at the end of a recent phone conversation that they are leaving your company for greener pastures. This deal is no longer fulfilling their needs.

You are speechless, literally.

You feel betrayed, abandoned, let down. Soon anger sets in. You are dependent on your friend/leader to help build your nest egg. Why are they leaving you? Do you feel like a jilted lover? What will you do now?

How will you build this thing…alone?

Well…my friend, this is a very good question that we in business relationships must answer.

Let us go back to the beginning of this business relationship.

Give an honest answer to this question.

Why did you join your business opportunity?

Is it because you connected with person who introduced it to you and felt you would have support?   Was the business opportunity a good fit for your beliefs and your integrity?   Did you love the compensation plan or was it your love of the product/service? Did you feel that you could build a great organization despite any challenges?

If you are like the average person beginning a new enterprise you were excited and hopeful. Is this the one that will take me where I want to go and will I have the help/support I need to get there?

Every one of us wants to be accepted, supported and sometimes carried. However, as individuals we all come to the business with different dreams, talents and drive. It is true that we buy and associate with people we like.

This does not mean we are joined at the hip.

The bottom line here is this: If we are in an unsatisfactory business environment that no longer fulfills our needs and goals we owe it to ourselves to look elsewhere.

When you join a company it is very important that you come into it knowing that you will have challenges, disruptions and disappointments.

This is called life.

If your friend call and ask you to join their deal, or if you are seeking an opportunity to pursue, make certain your decision to join is based on sound business principles.

After you start your business get involved and learn as much as possible as fast as possible to maintain your independence.

If your sponsor does not keep their promise (real or assumed) to help you grow, remember why you joined the deal. Not for friendship or relationship but for business.

Move to the next level; find the help you need to move on. This is why it is so important to join the right opportunity for you for the right sound reasons.

If your sponsor/friend will not return your phone calls, drop off, drop out and move on, you can move forward as well.

Honor Yourself!

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I have set my goals so, how do I get what I want. I don’t know how to achieve my goals you say. Let me explain.

Many people are guilty of setting goals and nothing happens. To prove this point think about the New Year’s resolutions many people make and not keep or should I say not know how to keep.

In lesson two I set a goal to take an imaginary trip to Italy. Let us continue with this goal. Freely use one of your goals in its place as well. If you have not read part one and two of “Goal Setting” please red them first.

We wrote your goal to take a trip to Italy. All plans are made. The trip was a year out when planned. Let us assume it still is. The goal to take this trip to Italy is one you want to really achieve.

To anchor your trip in your mind you must get emotionally attached to it. To do this you can go online or to your favorite local bookstore or library and get books on Italy. You look at the details of your trip and you see that you are going to Rome, Venice and Florence.

Business branding is nearly as old as business building itself. Personal branding is relatively new and exciting.

Personal branding can be described as the process that individuals and entrepreneurs use to distinguish themselves from the crowd and stand out. They share what makes them unique, personal and professional and leverage that information across the various platforms on the internet with the goal being to deliver a consistent message.
Simply said, personal branding is boldly self-promotion.