We have all heard many times the old adages that goes like this: Steady wins the race, be consistent, do a little each day, do not start and stop or keep moving. I am enclosing Aesop’s famous tale about the tortoise and the hare for your enjoyment and understanding. Just to get my point across.
The Tortoise and the Hare Aesop’s Fables
There once was a speedy hare who bragged about how fast he could run. Tired of hearing him boast, slow and Steady, the tortoise, challenged him to a race. All the animals in the forest gathered to watch.
Hare ran down the road for a while and then and paused to rest. He looked back at Slow and Steady and cried out, “How do you expect to win this race when you are walking along at your slow, slow pace?”
Hare stretched himself out alongside the road and fell asleep, thinking, “There is plenty of time to relax.”
Slow and Steady walked and walked. He never, ever stopped until he came to the finish line.
The animals who were watching cheered so loudly for Tortoise, they woke up Hare.
Hare stretched and yawned and began to run again, but it was too late. Tortoise was over the line.
After that, Hare always reminded himself, “Don’t brag about your lightning pace, for Slow and Steady won the race!”
No, you do not have to be perfectly consistent like gravity, however, you cannot expect to reach your goal by stopping and going.
This is what happened to me this morning when I was walking our dog.
We live near a beautiful trail in the Seattle, Washington area and during one of her sniffing stops I noticed a man quite a distance behind us shuffling toward us. After she finished sniffing we moved on rather fast. Then… yes, another series of stops and sniffs…the man who is shuffling toward us is getting closer. Polly had another sniffing stop and does her business and as she is doing this the slowly stepping man passes us. We get started walking again and the man who is still slowly shuffling has gotten to the corner and turned around and has passed us going back the way we came. I found this so interesting.
Stop and start does not get us where we want to go. There are many distractions along the way. Doing a little daily toward your dream is what it takes. If you want to save for a vacation, lose weight or build a business. You must be on it steadily.
When you are making plans to reach your goals remember to include consistency in your strategies for them to work every time. Not perfection but constant.
What are your thoughts?
You know this how? If you are harboring a secret your mind goes back to it over and over again. You may wonder what will happen to me if someone finds out. How will this affect my family, my marriage, my job, my relationships and my future? Secrets will destroy your well-being and it could be something that occurred when you were an adolescent or a mistake you made as an adult.
It is the fear of your secret being discovered that will destroy your emotional well-being and this can lead to so many other problems used to cover up your feeling of shame and regret.
“Man is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides.”
― André Malraux
Why are you afraid and trapped by your secret?
Because you know some will look at it favorable with understanding and some will consider you an outcast. Sometimes there are further repercussions to your secret, like job loss or maybe jail time. What is the worst that can happen to you and are you willing to risk that for your emotional well-being? Know this for a fact; people are generally forgiving and understanding and want us to have a second chance and if they do not you will have to consider releasing them. Oh, I know it is not easy, and it is freeing.
Why telling your best friend your secret is not the ideal solution
“Sometimes, the biggest secrets you can only tell a stranger.”
― Michelle Hodkin,
Your best friend may have been involved in this secret and if not, are they equipped to handle the information and when they have it what will they do with it. Will they share it and when it is shared will the story change for the better or the worse? Usually worse. Be very careful.
What can happen to me if I keep this secret?
You could drink and drug to forget, you may have to lie and try to remember your lie, you could withdraw into yourself and away from other people and your life. You could build a wall around yourself and become aloof. You could live every day in fear of someone finding out and they will! Imagine this. There are many times when your secret is already known!
Who can I safely talk to about my secret?
Well this is an interesting and important question. The first thing you must do is prepare yourself to actually talk about your secret to someone you really trust in a comfortable environment. Speak with someone who will give you honest and sound advice. This could be your attorney, your minister, your psychiatrist, your psychologist, your mother or father. Follow their guidance and leadership. It could be necessary to have more visits to discuss the situation further.
Once your secret is no longer you will step out of the shadow of darkness into the light. You will understand there is nothing new under the sun. If there are repercussions you may have to walk through them and learn all the lessons from this secret so you will never ever repeat it.
Encourage friends to tell their secrets to professionals so you do not have to carry their burdens as well.
Consider unloading your secrets to an appropriate person and get emotionally healthy. It is very freeing to know that someone on this planet knows what you think is the worst about you.
Let me know how you feel about secrets and how they have changed your life. Do not forget to subscribe for more interesting articles.
At some point in our lives we all play the blame game, until we learn better. Maybe we do not know any other way. We think it works for us but it doesn’t.
It is easier to blame others for our failures and escape responsibility for our life. It is painful to admit mistakes especially costly ones. Let’s pass the blame on to someone else.
Now, do you feel better?
Unsuccessful people always blame someone else for their situation. In any exchange the words “it is not my fault” always enter into the conversation. When people continue to have failures they continue to play the blame game.
Without taking responsibility for your life and its direction, you are giving your power away to the person you are blaming. Does this person care about your life? Is this person going to fix your life? Is this person thinking about you and your situation?
I have made many bad decisions and suffered the consequences as well. I accept 100% responsibility for those lousy choices. I learned many lessons about myself and my family as a result of them. I will not repeat them.
This is one of the most important things I have learned about lessons. If we fail to learn from them, we have a nasty habit of repeating the mistake. The consequences are more devastating each time we do not learn our lessons and more on.
Take complete responsibility for your life and your choices. When choices you make do not happen as desired you are in control and can determine how to react to the incident. You can make a decision to learn from the situation, grow, expand, interact with love ones and hold your faith close to you.
If something bad is happening to you in your life accept that it is happening because of a decision you made and it was an error in your thinking. Know that you thought this way because of the information you had at the time. This difficult situation came to you to teach you a lesson. Learn from it and move forward. Take full responsibility.
This is how to do it:
Repeat this phrase continually “I am responsible for my life.”
Decide now to develop a plan to work on eliminating your insecurities. There are many books and CD’s to assist you with this.
When you find yourself blaming anyone or anything ever again remind yourself that you only make decisions for your life and you only can correct them. Keep your power.
Stop listening to others make excuses for their life situations.
Watch what you say to others in conversations as you evolve. You are responsibility no matter what.
When you blame other are you afraid to look at yourself? Are you really afraid of what you might see? Look long and steady and make the necessary changes to fuel your new life of responsibility.
Taking responsibility will completely eliminate you desire to hold grudges against others. How freeing is that?
Don’t blame anyone else for anything. No more why me?
Accept unconditionally that you create your life, you create it, and you are 100% responsible for it. YOU can change it. Drop the victim mentality or stay stuck in fear.
There are so many positive results in store for you when you make the decision to take charge of your life. Make a plan and start now from this point in time.